Our early relationships play a significant role in how we connect with others later in life. Attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — develop through our experiences with caregivers and can shape how we communicate, handle conflict, seek closeness, and respond to emotional needs in relationships.

Relationship difficulties often involve repeating patterns that can leave people feeling misunderstood, disconnected, emotionally overwhelmed, or afraid of abandonment. For example, one partner may seek constant reassurance while the other withdraws or avoids emotional closeness, creating a cycle of conflict and frustration for both people.

Attachment wounds can also develop through emotional neglect, inconsistent caregiving, trauma, abuse, or invalidating experiences in childhood. These early experiences can impact self-esteem, trust, emotional regulation, boundaries, and the ability to feel safe and secure in relationships.

In therapy, we work toward understanding your attachment style, identifying relationship patterns, and developing healthier ways of communicating and responding to emotional needs. Sessions may focus on emotional awareness, boundary-setting, conflict resolution, assertive communication, and building more secure and fulfilling relationships.

Areas of Focus

• Attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, secure)

• Relationship conflict and communication difficulties

• Fear of abandonment or emotional closeness

• Codependency and unhealthy relationship patterns

• Trust issues and emotional safety

• Boundary-setting and assertiveness

• Childhood attachment wounds and relational trauma

• Emotional regulation in relationships

Client Populations

I support youth and adults who are:

• Struggling in romantic, family, or interpersonal relationships

• Noticing repeating relationship patterns that feel stuck or painful

• Experiencing anxiety, withdrawal, or emotional reactivity in relationships

• Wanting to build healthier boundaries and more secure attachment

• Healing from relational trauma or difficult past relationships

I offer in-person counselling in Kelowna, BC, and online counselling and psychotherapy throughout BC and Ontario.